'Your partner can't get pasta silly thing like this...': Woman 'disrespects' Italian partner by misnaming food product

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Mar 9, 2023 11:00 AM EST

This woman is wondering if she disrespected her Italian partner by misnaming a common pantry staple. Her partner pointed out that during dinner time, she kept calling pasta "noodles" instead of just "pasta." She's completely confused why her partner is offended about this random semantic difference. 

As u/Other-Onion-7069 wrote to r/AmItheA**hole, she's not mispronouncing any words, and she has Italian friends who have never made a big deal out of calling pasta "noodles." Luckily, commenters overwhelmingly sided with the OP instead of her partner. It started a discussion about Italians who call sauce "gravy" instead, which is where the real debate should lie! 

Next up, this guy is completely stunned by his neighbor's disregard for his property. They say the previous neighbor had no qualms about letting them use his pool and driveway, but their new neighbor isn't quite so lenient. 

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    Font - AITA for "disrespecting" my partners culture by calling pasta "noodles"?
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    Font - AITA for "disrespecting" my partners culture by calling pasta "noodles"? Pretty much the title, my partner (m23) said i (f20) disrespect his Italian heritage/ culture because i call pasta "noodles" instead of pasta. I dont see what the big deal is, its like getting mad at someone for calling a charging adapter "a box" or "a cube", theyre all the same thing. Id understand if i was purposely mispronouncing the dishes themselves but im not? Id even understand if they were used almost exclusi
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    Font - Edit: to clear things up, we don't talk ab pasta/noodles often, really only when im making some fast late night food for myself and he asks and it just slips out (like once every 1-2 months). I always apologize after i realize and i dont go out of my way to do it. I called them noodles literally my whole life as did my parents + friends so i thought it was normal to call them that. He's literally the first person ive ever met to have a problem with it so im asking if im disrespecting the
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    Product - Broutythecat 4 Parta: pant [1] 18 hr. ago 3 2 & 4 More NTA. I'm an actual Italian from Italy and I hereby grant you official permission on behalf of the whole Italian population to call pasta whatever the h you want, and to tell your partner that he's a pretentious scassaminchia e di smetterla di rompere i cojoni. 14.0k Share
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    Rectangle - Fergus74 17 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [11] As an Italian myself, I agree. Provided that OP never indulge in an Italian Unforgivable Mortal Sin like breaking spaghetti or putting cheese on seafood pasta.
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    Font - helena_handbasketyyc 17 hr. ago I'm a first generation Canadian with parental roots in Italy. "We're having pasta tonight, what kind of noodles do you want?" Is a pretty common question round here.
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    Human body - Seeking-perspective 16 hr. ago My born in Italy grandma use to say the same thing.
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    Font - turkeybuzzard4077 - 17 hr. ago It's almost like Italian and English are different languages and they use shared words differently...wow...
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    Font - Gothic Gingerbread. 17 hr. ago I've known a number of 2nd and 3rd generation Americans of Italian descent (so, the children and grandchildren of actual Italians from Italy) who all call the tomato-based sauce they put on their pasta (or noodles, as the case may be) "gravy". Technically, in English, gravy a sauce made from the thickened and seasoned juices of cooked meat, so their sauce couldn't be a gravy, but it never once occurred to me to take offense. As far as I'm concerned, if it ta
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    Font - magneticeverything 16 hr. ago . My boyfriend is Italian from the New Jersey/Philly area and this is his particular hill to die on. He really thought it was ludicrous the first time he said it and I didn't know what he meant. He was absolutely bewildered and said "what else would you call it BUT gravy?!" I get a half- joking glare and deliberate correction every time I say "pasta sauce" or "red sauce." Anyways I have resigned myself to the fact that our kids will call it gravy someday. He
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    Font - SpartanPuffling · 18 hr. ago INFO: is he working for hours in the kitchen to make you hand made pasta? Then you might be the a hole. Are you making quick pasta from a box that requires no effort from him? Then NTA 30 Share Other-Onion-7069 OP 18 hr. ago Its boxed pasta
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    Human body - FancyForrestFeet 13 hr. ago LOL it isn't even homemade? This guy is a joke
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    Font - Outrageously_Penguin 19 hr. ago A mole Aficionado [12] Lol tell your partner to stop being such a noodlehead and chill the h out. NTA.
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    Font - SoLongMeatbags. 19 hr. ago Partas pant [3] ΝΤΑ If your partner can't get pasta silly thing like this, than it may be time to spaghetti out of the relationship.
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    Art - Tie Dyed Up 18 hr. ago Pasta la vista baby, have a taco instead.
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    Font - Lady_Fel001 18 hr. ago If ever there was a time to mention marinara flags, this is it - ΝΤΑ
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    Font - marvel_nut 17 hr. ago Plus, isn't he disparaging the whole noodle bowl thing certain Asian cultures have going for them? Is he expecting my local Vietnamese Noodle House to change his name in case an affronted Italian-Canadian walks by? What does he call ramen? OP is definitely NTA.
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    Font - somuchsong 16 hr. ago He probably calls it ramen. He's not asking OP to not use the word noodles at all - he's asking her to not refer to pasta as noodles. I agree that she's NTA but this is a North American language idiosyncrasy that I have always found a bit puzzling. I've never heard anyone in Australia referring to pasta as noodles.
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    Font - Paxdog1 18 hr. ago So, when did your boyfriend come to the US? Oh, he was born here? Has he gone to Italy often? Okay, well he at least is fluent in Italian, right? No? Then he should probably learn about his culture before hs lectures anyone. ΝΤΑ EDIT spelling 308 Share AbbehKitteh24 · 18 hr. ago According to OP his GREAT grandparents came here from Italy... And this man is acting like he moved here last year
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